How to make your children have a lot benefited on summer vacation?

怎樣讓孩子們?cè)谑罴偈芤娣藴\呢？

1. Remind them of previous times they overcame a fear

他們克服了恐懼的時(shí)候提醒他們

Reminding your child of a previous occasion where they were afraid to try something, but ended up enjoying it, can give them a little boost of confidence in their own abilities.

提醒你的孩子以前他們害怕嘗試，但最終享受了它，可以給他們一個(gè)小表?yè)P(yáng)來(lái)提高他們對(duì)自己的能力的信心。

2. Avoid comparing them to others

避免把他們與別人進(jìn)行比較

Focus on your child, and what fears it is that they are aiming to overcome. Making continual comparisons to other kids can be unhelpful and may make your child feel inadequate.

關(guān)注你的孩子，看看他們害怕什么。讓其他孩子與你的孩子持續(xù)的比較可以說(shuō)是無(wú)益的，還可能會(huì)讓你的孩子感到不滿足。

3. Teach them to recognize valid fears

教他們正確的認(rèn)識(shí)恐懼

While overcoming fears is important, we need to remember that some fears are perfectly valid and healthy. If your child is afraid of jumping into a river full of crocodiles, then that’s good, that’s a fear that you don’t want them to overcome. Teach them to recognize the difference between important life-saving fears, and irrational fears, by talking through risks and consequences.

然而克服恐懼是很重要的，但我們需要記住一些恐懼是完全有效和健康的。如果你的孩子害怕跳入有很多鱷魚的河中，那很好，這是一個(gè)你不想讓他們克服的恐懼。通過(guò)討論風(fēng)險(xiǎn)和后果來(lái)教他們識(shí)別重要的拯救生命的恐懼，和非理性的恐懼的區(qū)別。

4. Show them how facing a fear can be done in small steps

告訴他們?nèi)绾瓮ㄟ^(guò)小的步驟面對(duì)恐懼

Sometimes the best way to overcome a fear is to leap right into it, other times though it’s better to tackle it slowly and gently. Be guided by your child on this, if the fear is overwhelming for them, then show them how it can be approached in small stages, only moving on to the next stage when a certain comfort level is reached. Plan the stages with them ahead of time so that they are clear on what is going to happen, and don’t spring surprises on them or they won’t trust you next time.

有時(shí)克服恐懼最好的辦法就是飛躍跳過(guò)，其他時(shí)候最好慢慢地輕輕地解決它。通過(guò)這樣來(lái)引導(dǎo)你的孩子，如果他們的恐懼是壓倒性的，然后向他們展示如何走近一小步，只有移動(dòng)到下一個(gè)能達(dá)到一定的舒適度階段。提前計(jì)劃，以便他們清楚會(huì)發(fā)生什么，也不要有什么驚喜否則下次他們不會(huì)信任你。

5. Constantly remind them that they’re not alone

不斷地提醒他們，他們并不孤單

Probably the most important one is to remind them regularly that they don’t have to face their fears alone. If they feel secure in the knowledge that you will be there for them whatever the outcome, this will grow their fearless mindset and help give them the confidence to move forward.

最重要的是不斷地提醒他們，他們不必獨(dú)自面對(duì)他們的恐懼。如果他們覺得安全，無(wú)論他們結(jié)果如何，你都會(huì)在這里，這將增加他們的無(wú)所畏懼的心態(tài)，幫助增加他們前進(jìn)的信心。